In Prague!!

which explains my lack of posts.

finally found out what my room’s password was.

suprising what a little sleep and litocane gel can do.

more bumps, less discomfort.

Meghan: 2

Herpes:1

Anonymous asked: How is having herpes affecting your life? I just found out I have type 1 today and I am freaking out. I wish I knew what to do, but I don't. I'm only 20 and I feel like I'll never find a guy who will want to date me let alone sleep with me.

It really hasn’t, and I’m 20 as well. Yeah, I have worse mood swings and occasionally sink into a depression. I stopped taking the prophylactic meds, mainly because I was never that good at taking pills. Its made me more aware of what I say and what I think about different diseases. Its also made me a huge advocate for better sex education in schools and in the home (as they put it in south park, sex can be taught in school, but it should also be taught by parents). I was left by my ex fiance because of herpes, so it kept me from marrying a man who knocked up another girl (his other fiance, while we were still together) and then skipped out on her when she told him she was preggos. I actually feel lucky for that. As far as the sex goes, after my diagnosis I have had at least 8 (that I can count off the top of my head) partners who all knew I was infected, and for the past 6 months I’ve been in the most wonderful relationship. So the only thing thats really changed since my diagnosis is occasionally I get irritating bumps on my vag…

Just don’t let the disease take control of you. Its only a very very very small part of you. As long as you still find yourself attractive other people will. Its not like people can just look at you and say, “ooooh look, they have herpes.” the only way they can tell is if you tell them. Don’t let your fear of never finding a guy to date or sleep with you prevent you from telling your partners. Yes, condoms are safe… but not telling them should never be an option. Be careful, be safe, and best of luck sweetie.

PSA: If you know you have herpes, tell your partner.

i didn’t like all the herpes jokes in this week’s south park…

it just goes to show the media stereotyping of one disease as “BAD”. They did prove a point (though its not the point i was hoping for). Through the entire episode Eric makes fun of Kenny because of his oral herpes (“Its a cold sore” “No, that’s what girls call it. You’ve got herpes.”). Until Eric gets oral herpes… then its “just a cold sore”, which is my favorite lie people tell them selves though it can potentially dangerous. The point that I got from it was in the media its okay to make fun of something, until you have it, then pretend you don’t.

Talking to my ex-fiancé….

And I could not be happier he cheated on me and broke my heart.

Because he is boring.
He has nothing to talk about. Ever to me.
All one word answers.
And he never says always.

I’m glad I never ended up with him, because I would be miserable.

So herpes did do something good for me. :) THANK YOU HERPES FOR KEEPING ME FROM A DOOMED MARRIAGE!

The “upside” of herpes…

A diagnosis of herpes can actually have some ‘positive’ effects too.  For some people, having herpes can mean a better quality of life by paying more attention to the body and motivating us to improve our overall health.

The state of a person’s health can be a big factor in keeping the symptoms under control, so making positive diet and lifestyle changes can have countless benefits.

Herpes can also help us to choose more wisely when it comes to partners and relationships.  When you need to disclose something as personal as herpes, becoming intimately involved with another person can become something that is shared only with people who deeply respect and care for us.  This can help to give us very real and true experiences in our relationships.

When one door shuts another door opens, and it is important to focus on the powerful personal strengths that can come from this situation. The first steps are to work towards eliminating the physical symptoms, finding forgiveness in your  heart if there is any resentment that needs working on, and then move forward positively to the future.

Telling your friends you have herpes..

herpesgoddess:

Your non-friends will act like this:

To which you’ll respond:

They might be more subtle like this:

So you just move on and hang out with your real friends who love you no matter what

(via cantblametammy)

Anonymous asked: You're always very open and honest about having herpes and even your sex life to some extent. It's very empowering to see your confidence, so thank you. I suppose I was just wondering your stance on oral sex...you've said you've had a few partners since being diagnosed, but have you stuck to just penetration? I guess I'm just scared for oral transmission, so I've avoided it. I know you can use condoms, but it seems that would take away from the act.

Thank you for YOUR support, it means a lot to know I’m not just banging my head against the wall… As far as oral goes I’ve never liked it… Probably because I was raised in a mindset that those are my nono bits aka dirtyparts, so it always made me squeamish for a guy to put his face down there (though there was one guy who did this fabulous trick wih his tounge and an icecube…) if you wanna try here’s what I’d suggest. I’m not big on the idea of dental dams, what i’d prefer is to take Saran wrap, lube up one side, put the lube side down on the female’s genitals and proceed to go to town. Or condoms (like you said). While I still do give oral, I despise the taste of latex and prefer to use a well lubed hand then my lovely lips… So good luck in what ever you try, just be safe and tell me how it turns out :). 

mybellarina asked: Maybe that other person didn't know they had herpes? A large portion of people who have it are asymptomatic.

no. my friend and i went to talk to her (me to make sure he didn’t do anything stupid). she said that yes she knew, she contracted it over 2 years ago. But she didn’t want to tell guys because they would find her unattractive. this could’ve easily been prevented, no, my friend may not have had a one night stand with her, but knowing him he would’ve dated her until they had talked over it and planned everything.

i asked him the same question, and when he said he didn’t know we arranged to meet her, in a public place so no one would make a scene.

i was hoping i’d be the only one of my friends to have to deal with herpes…

my friend just called me because he just got tested positive for genital herpes, i didn’t ask which strand. SERIOUSLY? this woman had a one night stand with my friend and neglected to tell him. he used a condom, but he didn’t know there was a risk and didn’t see a need to use it during foreplay.

THIS IS WHY YOU USE A CONDOM AS SOON AS THE PANTS COME OFF! My friend has been put in a situation i hoped no one else i knew would have to go through. This is honest to god bull shit. and i’m fucking pissed.

IF YOU KNOW YOU HAVE HERPES TELL YOUR PARTNER, DON’T THINK AS LONG AS YOU USE A CONDOM ITS GOING TO BE OKAY. ITS NOT. DO NOT TAKE THAT RISK.

Anonymous asked: Im almost positive have HSV2... I went to a free clinic and Im still waiting for results but she gave me meds and the name of a book to read, " The Good News About The Bad News." I ordered the book and am taking the meds but Im freaking out... any words of encouragement or advice?

Well, I’ll do the encouragement first. Take a deep breath and wait for the test results to come in, it is possible to have a misdiagnosis. Its not as bad as the media and the sex ed classes make it seem. Your image of yourself shouldn’t be diminished by the words of the ignorant and uneducated. Don’t freak out. There are plenty of good (and otherwise healthy) people living with this issue. It isn’t the end of your sex life. You’ll meet a lot of great people that are going through the same thing you are, whether you know it or not. Chances are you already know someone who has herpes, its not a rare disease. You have a lot of people on Tumblr who are here if you have questions comments or concerns about HSV. And we will always be here for you. Don’t freak out. Breath. Everything is going to be okay.

Advice time…

1) talk to the person who you believe you got it from and make sure they get tested.

2) Start looking into ways to prevent future outbreaks (stress, food, meds, etc.)

3) When looking for good advice on HSV on tumblr from fellow HSV people, do not search #herpes. Its full of uneducated nitwits.

4) Look at and read some of the articles here

5) Watch this video

6) Be safe. I’m not just talking about sex, but in general. People are going to say mean things. You’re going to read gross generalizations that are rude, uneducated, and obnoxious. Not going to lie, the social stigma is tougher to deal with (most of the the time) then the disease itself. Be safe. Don’t take actions that are going to get you hurt. Please. If you need someone to talk to we are here for you, and if you need a list of other HSV friendly blogs I’ll gladly post one.

didn’t know how much my mother despises gender neutral…

my mother is very blue boys and pink girls… so when i walked into my parent’s house wearing my work uniform… men’s vans, men’s black shorts, and a white v neck undershirt (men’s) my mother blew a fuse. i didn’t know how much she absolutely abides by the “normal” gender rolls. i knew she was conservative but the attack i walked into was not expected. she said things about not wanting her daughter to be “a gay”, and how i looked like “a eunuch”. when i corrected her, and told her the word she was looking for was transvestite, or cross dresser, she just got angrier. she blamed it on rocky horror (reasonable), public school (not so reasonable), and my reading choices (not reasonable at all). i told her that if thats the way she truly felt then she should feel lucky to know that her daughter abides by social norms for the most part. the only reason i wear mens clothes is because of the simple fact they are comfortable. as i have since high school. i don’t feel comfortable in skirts and dresses, blouses and frilly tank tops. i HAVE begun to dress more feminine, but only when there is a need, or i feel girly. if there is no one around to impress why do i care that i’m “ugly” as mom so bluntly put it. i feel beautiful in my skin, why should i feel unbeautiful just cause of some scraps of cloth? Edit: In that same uniform I was biking my rickshaw and I stopped at a cross walk to let some guys cross the street, they told me that I could keep going because they’d rather watch me then continue to walk. To which my boss, who was in the back of the rickshaw, said, “you gotta pay for that privilege.” and we biked off laughing. Being the insults mom, I’m hot no matter how I dress.